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Age hierarchy, key to communication in Vietnam

Before delving into gestures, it's essential to understand that Vietnamese society follows a hierarchy based on age. When communicating with an older person, respect must be shown. With someone younger, affection and generosity are expressed. Among people of the same age, even if Vietnam has adopted a more Western lifestyle, collectivism prevails. In case of disagreement, present your ideas gently and with humor. Direct opposition should be avoided.

Saying hello and goodbye like a local

• Form a "V" with your fingers: this gesture means both "victory" and "hello" (the V representing the number two which is pronounced "hai", close to the English "hi"). Used for greeting or in photos.
• Nod your head with a smile: to acknowledge the presence of a younger person. Avoid with elders.
• Wave your hand or arm: a friendly way to greet friends.

Slightly bow your body: a sign of respect towards an older person. A 30-degree angle is sufficient, with relaxed arms. Greet first, within 3 meters distance.

Good manners during a visit

• Bring a small gift, intended for the oldest person or the children. Offering something to your friend's parents is more important than giving them a present.
• Remove your shoes upon entering, out of respect for the cleanliness of the place. Your host will offer you slippers if necessary.
• Take off your hat when speaking to an older person, unless you know them well or stay outside in scorching sun.
• Be punctual, with a maximum of 5 minutes delay. Notify if you are delayed.
• Always greet the oldest person first, even if you have a friendly connection with a younger person present.
• Do not extend your hand to elders, let them initiate the gesture. A man must wait for a woman to extend her hand to him.
• Avoid sitting higher or crossing your legs in the presence of elders. Respect takes precedence over comfort.
• Show interest in their family, the heart of Vietnamese life. Your consideration will be appreciated.
• For women: offer your help in the kitchen, even if it might be politely declined.
• In a bereaved house for less than a year, ask permission to pay respects to the deceased before discussing.

Showing agreement and sympathy

• Applaud during a meeting or conference to show your agreement with the remarks.
• Nod your head, except with an older person.
• Slightly incline your head in approval, especially when facing an elder.
• Shake hands to cooperate or conclude an initial exchange. Again, let the elders initiate the gesture.
• Give a "high five", especially common among young people.
• Give a friendly hug, formerly reserved for long-time male friends but now common among millennials. Parents may still find it inappropriate.

Politely expressing disagreement

• Gently wave your hand with a smile while saying no. A polite way to contradict, even an elder.
• Shake your head, universally understood. With an elder, calmly explain your disagreement without shaking your head.

Gestures to absolutely avoid

• Winking: a sign that you are lying or concealing something. Between a man and a woman, it suggests an ambiguous relationship.
• Hugging a person of the opposite sex: poorly perceived if you are not a couple, especially by the parents' generation.
• Putting your hands in your pockets while talking: expresses contempt towards your interlocutor.
• Pointing at someone: reserved for objects and directions.
• Directing your feet towards someone's face, sitting or lying down: inappropriate and disrespectful.
• Waving your hand up and down: calls a child or rudely dismisses an adult.

Show your appreciation after a trip

In Vietnam, receiving or giving something with both hands is a typical gesture to show respect, especially towards an older person. It is also common to pay or be paid this way.

So, after an exceptional tour with Typic Travel, do not hesitate to warmly thank your guide with a gift offered with both hands. Your gratitude and sincere interest in their culture will surely touch them!

In summary

More than just a travel agency, Typic Travel is your gateway to the soul of Vietnam. For over 15 years, our artisan guides have put their expertise and passion at your service to offer you a tailor-made experience, off the beaten path.

So, ready to experience Vietnam from the inside? Entrust us with your travel project! Our team of artisan travel agents will, at your pace, concoct a stay vibrant with authenticity. From trekking in the terraced rice fields to spending a night with locals, every moment will be unique. Discovering Vietnam with Typic Travel is the assurance of a trip that suits you.

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